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My Boyfriend and I hav been together for almost three years and I mean we both went from being young and homeless to just doing better
I love my guy with all of my heart and I mean it but he has always seemed a little withdrawn and is completly emotionaly stale. He selfish, he's manipulitive, spiteful, angry, has an addictive personality, he's always right Im always wrong, according to him I'm argumenitive, stubborn, too loud, and mean when I dont want to rub him when I get off of work super late and he's had the day off. Everything has to be his way or no way and if I say or do something his not happy with Im embarrassing and it could be sa little as whisphering too loud. idk? I really love the guy but I have an issue setting bounds with him and I need help going about it so he doesnt feel like Im attacking him or trying to make him feel down on himself he has a tendancy of turning things around to make them about him like saying, "Oh I didnt realize I was such a bad boyfriend or I didnt realize I dont do anything around the house?" He and I both know he doesnt do anything around the house and this comment will come from me just asking him to take the trash out one day! He really isnt that bad of a guy he's handsome and has big abitions and a big heart he just has a hard time letting me in we've spent nights and hours talking but I feel he thinks he's just too smart for me but honestly I just let him feel right all the time but I dont want to interject my opinions because I dont want to argue with him..idk? help:(
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Asked by ACarroll18 from El Cajon, CA
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This guy may somewhere deep within be a good guy; however, he is so very immature and is controlling and manipulating you. Everyone has potential; however, it, certainly, does not mean that they will live up to that. When you are honest with yourself, you will decide if your boyfriend is "growing" into his potential or if he's not.
You need to ask yourself why you feel that you should put up with this kind of treatment and, at the same time, defend his terrible behavior. Is this how you really want to live? It's not healthy and until you "dig deep" within yourself to find the courage and confidence to hold him accountable for his actions and behavior, things will only get worse, not better.
It's your life and it's up to you to realize that you deserve to be treated with respect and be with someone who "pulls their own weight" in the relationship.
Any relationship takes hard work and you must be willing and ready, within yourself, to do just that...and if the person you are with does not, then it may be time to let go of them so that you can find someone who is ready and willing to be in a mature and loving relationship.
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You need to ask yourself why you feel that you should put up with this kind of treatment and, at the same time, defend his terrible behavior. Is this how you really want to live? It's not healthy and until you "dig deep" within yourself to find the courage and confidence to hold him accountable for his actions and behavior, things will only get worse, not better.
It's your life and it's up to you to realize that you deserve to be treated with respect and be with someone who "pulls their own weight" in the relationship.
Any relationship takes hard work and you must be willing and ready, within yourself, to do just that...and if the person you are with does not, then it may be time to let go of them so that you can find someone who is ready and willing to be in a mature and loving relationship.
www.theselfrealizationfoundation.com
Links: www.theselfrealizationfoundation.com
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You both need to go to couples therapy. You both need to have a neutral third party help you work through some things, and you both need to learn how to communicate with eachother.
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Find someone who appreciates you the way u are. This is not your soul mate do not go by looks. Looks are deceiving. Go by what’s inside. True love is a two way street, not one way, his way. The Internet is full of decent people my brother found his mate that way so did my nephew. Good luck you will not be able to change him. I'm old and wise and been happily married for 30 years.
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