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There are several things you can try, but combining most of these together will probably be the best plan of attack.

1. Recruit your very best friends. Tell them that the jokes are starting to hurt and ask them to back you up when the situation starts getting cruel.

2. Fight fire with fire (but smile while doing it). For example: if someone asks you how your last trip to the fat farm was, smile at them and say "Say, that's right! I haven't seen you ever since I graduated into the 'achiever' class!"

3. Hit them with the puppy eyes. If an especially cruel comment comes along, hit them with a sad look and tell them that that comment was uncalled for and really hurt. If the joke teller is your friend, that will stop them.

4. Don't tolerate it. When they're deliberately trying to hurt you, laugh at the joke. But then (with a smile) say "Good one, but a little too vicious for my tastes. See you all later!" Then leave.

5. Build up your armor. Hurtful comments are correctly described as "cutting" and "cut you down". Spend time with friends and family who love and care about you. Everyone needs positive reinforcement, and you especially need it right now.

6. The ultimatum. You specifically mentioned your boyfriend. You need to tell him that the comments are starting to hurt and you need him to stop. Tell him that you care for him very much, but you can't continue to be the girlfriend of a guy who keeps cutting her down. If he keeps hurting you, LEAVE.

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It, actually, starts within you...how you feel about yourself on the inside. When you, truly, feel inside yourself that you no longer will accept being treated disrespectfully, then you will "give off that energy" and, slowly, your boyfriend and the people around you will begin to change or those relationships will end so that better relationships can be formed.

It all starts with you and how you really feel about yourself and what you really will put up with and what you won't. That's the bottom line.
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Dear ACarroll18,
RESPECT yourself. That is something you beleive from the inside out. You can be the best girlfriend if you expect respect from others and don't hang around when you don't get it. Know you are worth being treated well by others, including your boyfriend. Having friends and a great social life is important and fun, but not at the expense of your self-esteem. When someone thinks it's funny to belittle another in front of others, it is a sign of how they look at you.
Speak up for yourself. Identify your inner strengths.
Tell them it's not funny, you don't like the way they talk to you and about you. If they can't respect your feelings, perhaps you need to look for different friends. (Including your boyfriend) Warmly, Coach Deb