How to Be Secure in Your Masculinity

Every man can be secure in his masculinity. It doesn't take huge muscles or a high-powered career or a beautiful girlfriend to make you a strong-minded and strong-willed man. You simple have to be you and be confident with the man that you are, whoever you are.

• Know who you are as a man. Know your likes and dislikes. Know what you stand for and what you won't. And whomever you decide you are, don't let others tell you it is wrong. Stand up for what you believe.


• Be confident in your appearance. Dress in a way that is unique to you and makes you feel good about yourself. Don't put anything on that makes you self-conscious or feel bad. If you are having trouble finding a style that suits you, consult a stylist or close friend who may be able to help.


• Do things that make you happy. This could be a hobby like fishing or a deed like volunteering at a homeless shelter. Whatever you do, make sure it is something that makes you feel good and boosts your self-esteem.


• Surround yourself in people who make you feel good. Have friends and family that you have things in common with and are kind to you. Don't surround yourself in people that put you down, are negative toward you, or make you feel bad. You don't need a lot of friends and family, just a few good ones will make your emotional and mental state healthier. 


• Have a career you like. Don't settle for a job you hate or one that makes you feel bad. Find something you truly enjoy doing and pursue it. 


• Don't let others put you down or hurt you. Stand up for yourself. Protect yourself. If it helps, you can take self-defense classes, karate, or even self-help classes. Learn to be your own bodyguard.


• Know what you want out of life. Sit down and draw up a plan of what your future will be like. Stick to that plan. Knowing where you are going can help you to feel more confident and happy.