Refuge of Grace Academy

my daughter jordan has been home for a yr now spent 4 monthes came home went back two.at any given time there are only 18 to 20 girls there. in the last month there have been 9 girls she went in that brief time who are pregnant one who lives with us.friday child services in missouri called my home.asking me if my daughter was abused physically.How do I answer that when I wasnt ther but I know I have the medical bills from urinary tract infections she never had before there and not since she left.and besides my own daughter who had no accredited schooling i was lied to she would i have another girl who was there over two yrs who didnt get her education either.I believed bud and debbie because I was a desperate parent who loved her child, like others .The fact is you will pay alot of money to people who lie to you play on your desperation and love for your child and all youll get is quiet at home while they are gone. and then they come home and its a bigger mess

how does an uneducated couple really get away with this!!! bud and debbie are not an Ivy League school, not even close, but yet they have the right to put a price tag as if they were an Ivy League School??? graduate from Debbie and Bud's school, they cant even get into a University. they still have to take a GED... which is equivalent to a high school diploma... which in that case, why send your kid to school? if a GED costs a few hundred dollars.... why send them to bud and debbies school for 20 grand a year??? when their diploma really means NOTHING. please EVERYBODY, do your research!!!

when i heard about this, i thought.... wow, what a scam!!!!! these are uneducated people that just woke up one day and decided to start a 'school'. ok, i do know separation of church and state but this is insane!!!! just google 'UCLA TUITION' and there lowest tuition, if a student lives with relatives, is $22, 181.... we are talking about bud and debbie (hicks, uneducated hicks at that) compared to the University of California of Los Angeles. there is no comparison, really! i am really appalled! there are no words that explain how i feel about this since it was bud and debbie that ruined my education!!!! RUINED! them and their unaccredited 'school' bud and debbie - BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES!!!! how do you sleep at night?

"What is true for religious minorities is also true when it comes to the rights of women. History shows that countries are more prosperous and peaceful when women are empowered. That is why we will continue to insist that universal rights apply to women as well as men - by focusing assistance on child and maternal health; by helping women to teach, or start a business; by standing up for the right of women to have their voices heard, and to run for office. For the region will never reach its potential when more than half its population is prevented from achieving their potential" - President Obama

Debbie and Bud aren't teaching what America is trying to change in the Middle East. If you want the lowest of your daughter, send her here. If you have high expectations for your daughter, keep searching. Bud and Debbie are not your answer. It is a disgrace what they are doing and how they look at women as not equal to men. Shame on you Bud and Debbie! IT. IS. 2011 !!

I have finally come to a conclusion that I WILL write a book about this place and the many places they have been in the past. Every state they moved, they changed their name. And they have moved a lot... ask them, parents, they shouldn't lie about that. Why they moved, will either be very vague or a lie. I personally wouldn't trust anything that comes out of Debbie or Bud or Melissa's mouth.

even prisoners get an hour outside, for the first few months I was there we NEVER went out. I went to refuge march 2009 to nov and well.. I came out fragile and feeling like dying. The martins convinced my parents and I that I had stds to keep me there longer. Once my parents said they cudnt afford it they were happy to let me go! Besides that I went to the doc after I got out and foundout I was completely fine and healthy which made me so angry. I was at first disliked by debbie bcuz the first night I got restrained for pushing her back wen she pushed me first! I lost the feeling in my hands for a couple weeks. I was a guide there after a few months and tried to help as many girls as I cud. It was only possible for me to get through by learning to live inside myself. Their self righteous arrogant ways make a bad name for christians. Only God helped me through and only Gods forgiveness keeps me from a lawsuit.

I went to refuge from march 25 2009 to nov 14 2009. Maybe some of you kno me. I was a guide to jordan and a few other girls. Lets just say I cud easily have a lawsuit on the martins for falsely telling my parents that I had stds just to keep me there. I definitley do not. She had evn convinced me which ultimately led to me almost killing myself. But besides that the lack of conversation and evn ability to go outside made many extremely depressed. To them it was a privilege to do anything.. Chores, being allowed to sit, doind anything. My mom sent me letters and evn food that I nvr got. But all I can say is that God got me through and only him. And not their self righteous prideful baptist beliefs. I tried to help as many as I cud there. Learning to live inside ur mind isn't something anyone shud haveto do to survive. I wrote another review on here that disappeared. I hope this one stays and you remember that I'd rather b locked up than go through wat we went through at refuge.

Hey Bryan Vroman why don't you stop trying to protect Bud and Debbie and do the right thing? If all these girls (including myself) have been to this wretched boarding school for years, don't you think we would know what's REALLY going on? Don't you think we would know the truth since we were the objects of their brain-washing and cruelty?

It annoys me to hear people like you, "I'm a friend of Bud and Debbie's and I think what they're doing is great..." Don't you realize that every time we had visitors Debbie would put on a huge front? HEELLLOOOOO!!!! They acted like they loved and cared about us soooo much in front of people, but when it was just us girls she couldn't give a flyin' flip about us. When I first got there, I didn't see that lady for MONTHS.

Debbie is very, very manipulative..she is such an evil lady. PARENTS DO NOT SEND YOUR KIDS TO THIS BOARDING SCHOOL, IT WILL BE THE WORST DECISION YOU'LL EVER MAKE!!!!!!

I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS PLACE IS EVEN STILL OPEN!

I don't know how any parent could read all of the horrible reviews on this site and multiple others and still send their kids to R.O.G. God help all those poor girls still trapped there.... :(

I am so glad to know there are some people that have made a page on them! They are crazy! I am fortunate I had to only be with them for half a year, because, my mom finally had some social workers come and get me out!!! I had to be at another home just like it for a year and a half though!! I didn't know who the hell I was when I got out. They did nothing for me. I feel horrible for the girls that have been brain-washed and sabotaged.