How to Accept Pet Loss
The loss of a pet can be very devastating. Regardless of the type of pet you own, grieving over its loss is normal and natural. Grieving is accompanied by feelings of guilt, denial, anger and depression. To accept the loss of your pet, express your grief, lean on family and friends, share your feelings of sorrow and give surviving pets extra love.
- Be honest about your feelings. Do not lock away your grief. Express it by crying, talking to others and reminiscing about your loved pet. Have a memorial service and include your entire family. Plant a tree or flowers in your pet’s honor in your backyard, or gather memories in a photo collage.
- Talk to your family or friends who understand your feelings. If you do not have family or friends who can sympathize with your grief, visit a pet loss counselor or support group.
- Be honest with your children about your pet’s loss. Try not to tell a child that the pet “went away,” as they may wait for its return and will make it harder to accept a new pet. Make it clear that the pet is happy and free of pain, and that it will not come back. Be honest about your own sorrow with your child.
- Give your surviving pets extra attention and love to help them make it through this grieving period. Pets form strong attachments and may grieve for the loss of their companion. The love from your surviving pets can help you deal with your grief.
- Do not get a new pet right away. Take time to work through your grief before starting a relationship with a new one. If you decide to get a new pet, do not expect it to be like the one you lost and do not give it the same name.