How to Break the Cycle of Abuse

The cycle of abuse may seem tough to break, but with determination it can be done. It’s important to look at the past abuse problems and work to avoid meeting the same type of people in the future. A few changes in a person’s life and getting help from others can break the cycle of abuse.

• Tackle the history of the abuse problems and talk about the abuse that happened in the past. Look at past relationships and see if there are any patterns. Make a list of the people in past relationships that were abusive and see if you notice any similarities. Dealing with the abuse problems in the past is the first step towards breaking the abuse cycle.


• Consider treatment from a medical professional such as a therapist. Allow a therapist to help you work through abuse memories from the past. Therapists can also prescribe treatment if necessary.


• Attend an abuse support group. Listen to others talk about their abuse and know that you are not alone. Sometimes being around others that have had similar experiences helps people open up. People supporting each other and helping one anther to get stronger can help break the cycle of abuse.


• Change your routine and add more activities that expose you to different things. Start off slow by adding a weekly exercise class to your schedule even if you don’t need it. Attend fun activities like going bowling or take an interesting class to keep busy.


• Set new expectations for future relationships. Make a list of good traits you want in future relationships and don’t settle for less.